We actively manifest love in forbearance and patience towards our neighbor, in genuinely desiring his good, and in the right use of material things. (Maximos the Confessor)

There is something passive aggressive here.

Love is forbearance? Love is to bear up against or control one's feelings. Love is to endure (not love will endure). Love is to put up with something in the other requiring endurance?

Love is patient? After starting with forbearance, the need for patience suggests a neighbor who is annoying at best and probably a real pain.

Is "desiring good" a manifestation -- a plain and palpable expression -- of love? Rather restrained, it seems to me. How about contributing to her good, supporting his good, or celebrating her good?

Then given Maximos' clear and consistent skepticism of the material, what does he even mean by the right use of material things?

Love may well involve forbearance and patience. I welcome others desiring my good. But love begins with something much more.

In love we seek the full reality of our neighbor, we recognize God in our neighbor, and we realize that we cannot become our full self outside of relationship with our neighbor.