If there are some men you hate and some you neither love nor hate, and others you love strongly and others again you love but moderately, recognize from this inequality that you are far from perfect love. For perfect love presupposes that you love all men equally. (Maximos the Confessor)

This strikes me as clearly true. Each one is equally a child of God. Each one is an expression of God.

Love is to be in self-aware relationship with and to value the other. We are in relationship with each and, given the relationship of all to God, each has equal value.

We are not self-aware - in any real way - of our relationship with the vast majority. From this arises inequality of feeling.

In some intimate relationships it is all too easy for strong feeling to either exclude others or to weirdly dilute the value we recognize in the other.

This reminds us that love - or chesed in Hebrew - is not a feeling, but an ongoing engagement of tsedek (righteousness) and mishpat (justice).