If it be another man that cometh to give thee his alms, or else for to hear thee speak, or to be taught by thee, speak gently and humbly to them all, reprove no man for his faults, for that belongeth not to thee, unless he be the more homely or familiar with thee, that thou knowest that he will take it well from thee. And to be short in this matter of thy telling of another of his faults, I say, that when thou conceivest that it will do him good (namely, in his soul) thou mayest tell him thy mind, if thou hast opportunity, and if he is likely to take it well. (John Climacus)

"Reprove no man for his faults."

Fault-finding is not the purpose of our relationship.

Teaching - and especially spiritual teaching - can too often focus on what is deficient.

It is almost always more productive to attend to and enhance what is already strong.

Praise God, praise your neighbor, even find cause to honestly praise yourself. The abundance that God has given will, if allowed, fill any deficit.